Need Is the Core of Any Relation
Let’s talk about why do we have all of these relationships at last.
As in my last post, I talked a little about it.
We all have ours wants to be fulfilled in some ways. As explained in my previous post, we have 4 types of needs. In fact, there are four types of ways that we experience our life.
If and when we remove the need from any relationship we have, it gets dismantled and destroyed. You don’t see anything to keep it going on. No matter how much you claim to love the other person. But when the need gets fulfilled, then the relations seizes to exists.
We, humans, have organized around these relationships in such a way to fulfill our needs, we have created a particular relation. And it’s all accepted by society. There are many societies around the globe and all societies have different rules to follow. But one thing is common for sure, they have a way to fulfill individual needs. They created many socially acceptable relations, like husband/wife, bf/gf, brother/sister, cousins, parents, family, or friends.
Everyone is there in our lives to fulfill some kind of need. It might not resonate with everyone, as many people think so good of themselves that they might consider this as bad. And in turns, they would averse away from this perception.
Need is the core of any relationships we have.
I have seen people in my life leaving, once their need gets fulfilled from me. They don’t even look back. It always made me wonder how a person can be so loving in a moment when they need something from me, and the very next moment can act like to not know me at all.
A relation is a pure business of fulfilling each others’ needs. All in all, to a person who is involved in dividing the world between good and bad. It might seem a gross act of exchanges. I think this is why people don’t want to look at it as raw as it is. And they decorate it by giving these beautiful names, and most of all, decorating it with love.
People don’t even understand the meaning of love in their own experience and claim to be doing things for others for love. It seems funny to me when I ask others in my life about the meaning of love for them, and they always fail to explain. As for most of them, they’ve acquired the use of the word “love” from society, and they haven’t invested enough to know it well. Many people misinterpret lust as love. I think that’s why the term “lovemaking” is used instead of “having sex.” Whether it’s right or wrong, that I can’t tell. But for sure, it’s confusing and mixing things for all of us, which makes it hard to keep our life simple.
I always wondered why people leave, and it comes out that their needs from me get over or fulfilled. So they leave. There’s no right or wrong in this. I think I would do the same with others when my needs get over, or I have done this with many as well.
Now, I can see and tell the need of the relations I’m holding with anyone in my life. It makes my life simple and less dependent on others. Now I am aware that when their need is over, they will leave or walk over me in the blink of an eye. Whether the need is physical, mental, emotional, or energy-based, I know about it.
Knowing all of this makes it easy to let go of people if they want to go.
The relation between you and me is that my need is to write it all out of my mind somewhere, and yours might be the need to know it or just read it.
I wonder how you doing. Let me know in the comments below, as it feels so lonely out here in this world full of people.
Neeraj.
